Getting Hitched


Two short months ago, we enjoyed the happiest day of our lives when we were joined together under a huppah.  Given that Joshua is a rabbi and all, we took the process of preparing for our huppah pretty seriously.  In partnership with our senior rabbi, we developed an egalitarian and joyful lifecycle ceremony that was halachically valid and consistent with the way Jews have been getting married for thousands of years.  (Why turn a wedding into a hippy dippy circus?  There’s no reason to mess with a good thing, we thought.)  It was inclusive of and accessible to our non-Jewish friends and relatives … and most importantly, had everyone spilling tears of joy.


Email us if you’d like a copy of the programs/benschers that we designed to guide our guests through the day’s events.




The canopy of our huppah was a Scottish lace tablecloth of Monique’s great-grandmother, who smuggled it out of Germany during the Holocaust.




Mickie Caspie served as our artist and sofer.  We chose a Conservative text, which is essentially the Orthodox text + the all-important Lieberman clause.









We are living in a world with a lot of broken glasses … broken homes, broken windows, broken doors, broken children, broken Yiddishkeit [Jewish life]. I want to bless you that you should be the ones to rebuild Jerusalem, because Jerusalem is only rebuilt by people who can take a broken glass, and build the holy Temple from it.  – Rabbi Shlomo Carlebach









About Monique

Chocoholic, jazz head ... prone to rants, and a professional pitbull. I married a terrific guy who happens to be a rabbi, so I guess that makes me a rebbetzin. Who saw that one coming? My grandparents survived the Shoah and spent their lives in the service of others. On my best days, I walk in their footsteps.
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3 Responses to Getting Hitched

  1. Gene Shlomovich says:

    You guys seem to have had a beautiful wedding! Mazel Tov!

  2. Monique says:

    thanks, gene!

  3. Rabbi Joshua says:

    Gene-Thanks for the comment!

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